Yes, you can motivate yourself to do anything. Literally anything.
I know that’s a lot of promise, but this technique works for me every. single. time.
What motivates us?
In short, humans are motivated by two things. Pleasure and pain. Between the two, I have found that pain (or discomfort as I like to say) works the best. You are more inclined to do something if you know something bad is going to happen when you don’t do the thing.
So how do I motivate myself?
To be able to motivate yourself through pain or discomfort, you have to create a situation for yourself where you have to make sure something not-so-fun will happen if you don’t do the thing. There are two ways in particular that I’ve found helped me.
Money:I did this one a lot in college, I would give my friend $20 and tell them to keep it for me until after I had done the thing (like writing a paper) and I had to do it within a specific time frame. If you KNOW you’re going to lose that money you’re much more inclined to go through the hassle of doing the thing you don’t want to do because you don’t want to lose that money, and every time I did this I WOULD get the thing done. Peer pressure. I think peer pressure is an incredibly powerful thing that we should use to our advantage whenever we can. I will use peer pressure to motivate myself sometimes by tweeting a specific goal of mine, or by telling it to my friends. For example, a while back I tweeted that I wanted to post at least three videos and five blog posts a week. If I don’t, everyone can see that I failed this fairly simple goal, and nobody wants to be considered a failure, right?!
As I said in the beginning, pain isn’t the only motivator. Pleasure is also a motivator, by rewarding yourself for example. But I have found that rewarding myself doesn’t work unless I really want the reward. Usually you’re already quite comfortable and you have no problem to really go without the reward.
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Saving money should absolutely be a priority in your 20s, but for many people it’s not. Around 45% of millennials aged 18 to 24 have as little as $0 in their savings account, or they don’t even have a savings account.
Saving money when you’re young is important, because one day you’ll want to buy that house, fancy car or even retire early. These strategies will help you get started with saving. Believe me, starting out is the hardest part, once you get going and you see that number grow every month, it becomes a bit addicting!
Send some of your paycheck directly to your savings account
If you have a fulltime job, it’s important to know how much money is going in and going out every month. Ideally, you will have some money left. Whatever is left can be put in two categories: ‘fun’ money and savings. Figure out how much you want to put into your savings every month, and set up a direct deposit, so it goes directly in your savings account.
Wait before making big purchases
Do you really need those $200 shoes? that $500 handbag? I know that voice in your head tells you to treat yoself, but it might be better to wait a little – even if it’s just 24 hours. I started doing this a while ago, and it has helped me a lot – I usually don’t even want the item anymore after a few hours.
Don’t cheap out on insurance
Wherever you are in the world, I believe you shouldn’t cheap out on insurance. It might suck to pay the monthly bills, but it sucks a lot more to pay for something out of the pocket when you need it. You never know when you will need that trip to the emergency room or you accidentally set your apartment on fire. Read More »
I’m the kind of person that goes on websites like Lifehacker and constantly tries out those so-called life-hacks. I’m absolutely obsessed with living a life that’s not only productive, but also as easy as possible (who isn’t, ha). But we all know some of those articles are filled with fluff and tips we already know. In this video, I’m discussing 5 tips or ‘hacks’ that have actually worked for me and I still use on a regular basis.
The Pomodoro technique: This is a technique that helps me to take breaks and stay productive throughout the entire day. It’s really simple: you work in 20-minute time spans, and after working focused for 20 minutes you’re allowed to take a five minute break. Every four sessions, you take a twenty minute break. This helps me to stay focused all day and not feel lethargic by the time 2 o’clock hits.
Google Inbox: In my opinion, Google Inbox is much better than the regular Gmail. It’s focused on keeping your inbox completely empty, something that the organiser in me absolutely loves! Google Inbox also allows me to sort my emails in folders and bundles, which keeps everything looking neat. Read More »
Self-care seems to be a hot topic in bloggerland, and I couldn’t be happier about it. In the past year, I’ve gotten more into self-care myself and it has made both my physical and mental health a lot better.
I think we all would like to take better care of ourselves, but we often don’t really know where to start. Today I want to share 100 self-care activities with you. Even if you work on one or two activities at a time, you will be able to make a big change.
Remember, in the end it’s all about making a sustainable change for you, to become happier and healthier in the long run.
100 self-care activities
Take a walk in a neighbourhood you don’t visit often
Eat a homecooked meal you love
Go for a bike ride
Take a long, hot shower
Do a face mask
Call your friend
Pick up a that new hobby you’ve wanted to try for a while now
Watch a motivating YouTube video
Watch a horror movie while eating ice cream
Take photos of the things that you love
Declutter your space
Sit and listen to the sounds of nature
Stay off of social media while eating breakfast, lunch and dinner
Read a book instead of scrolling through your phone before sleeping at night
Happy Friday, friends! Today I’m introducing a new weekly segment on my blog: FRIDAY FAVORITES! I spend a lot of time consuming all types of content, and I want to share some of those hidden gems with you on a weekly basis!
Ed Sheeran dominated my Spotify playlists this week. Eraser is by far my favorite song from his new album, and I can’t stop listening to it. – ”I find comfort in my pain.”
Lulu Wang – The Lily Theatre
The Lily Theatre by Lulu Wang shows you a part of China you probably didn’t know about. In the book, Wang describes what it’s like to grow up in the country during a cultural revolution through the eyes of a young girl. This book was originally published in Dutch, which is my mother language (Dutch version of the book is pictured here). I normally like to read books in their original language (I can read Dutch, English and French and German on a good day) and I haven’t read many Dutch novels in my life. This one has been on my bookshelf for ages, and I’m loving it so far!
I’m slowly decluttering my bookshelves, but I want to read the books I haven’t read yet before I can declutter them.
The classic French croissant is one of my favorite types of bread ever. Obviously, they’re the best if you get them from France, but I think my local supermarket does a pretty stellar job at making their own. I love rediscovering old favorites!
I have a fascination for unresolved mysteries and disappearances. Some people vanish without leaving a trace, and some people are found without any type of identification. Cayleigh Elise is a YouTuber who does an amazing job at documenting these cases. She handles the cases with respect and does the proper research. I’m not a fan of people who sensationalize stories like these, which is another reason I love her.
I watched a video from Sarah Nourse a few weeks ago called ”Why I Stopped Making Minimalism Videos” and haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. I just really felt I recognized where she was coming from, and the entire video I couldn’t stop nodding my head.
Minimalism is supposed to be fun and enrich your life. It shouldn’t be a competition where you need to own less than x to belong to the club. Everybody is different, and therefore the perception of minimalism is going to be different.
I want the minimalism community to be inclusive and welcoming of new members – we all love being part of this community & this tool/lifestyle, and we should be happy to introduce other people to it! I don’t want to quit being a minimalist or not feel welcome in this community because I’m not minimal enough, nor do I want anyone else to feel this way!
On March 8th, 1908, a total of 15,000 women marched through the streets of New York standing up for their rights. We’ve come a long way since then, but there’s also still a long way to go.
On March 8th, we celebrate women. Women that inspire us to be better and dream big. The women who remind us of the fact that we can do anything as long as we set our minds to it. The women who raised us to be strong and independent. To learn how to take care of ourselves and not take shit of anyone.
On March 8th, I celebrate the women who taught me that I was enough. I celebrate the women who break glass ceilings and paved the way so I can follow my dreams. I celebrate the women who want me to succeed and support me no matter what. I celebrate my mom, my sisters and the women who inspired me in my childhood.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for doing what you do. You inspire me to inspire the next generation.
Other women are not my competition. I stand with them, not against them.