How To Motivate Yourself To Do Literally Anything

Yes, you can motivate yourself to do anything. Literally anything.

I know that’s a lot of promise, but this technique works for me every. single. time.


What motivates us?

In short, humans are motivated by two things. Pleasure and pain. Between the two, I have found that pain (or discomfort as I like to say) works the best. You are more inclined to do something if you know something bad is going to happen when you don’t do the thing.

So how do I motivate myself?

To be able to motivate yourself through pain or discomfort, you have to create a situation for yourself where you have to make sure something not-so-fun will happen if you don’t do the thing. There are two ways in particular that I’ve found helped me.

Money: I did this one a lot in college, I would give my friend $20 and tell them to keep it for me until after I had done the thing (like writing a paper) and I had to do it within a specific time frame. If you KNOW you’re going to lose that money you’re much more inclined to go through the hassle of doing the thing you don’t want to do because you don’t want to lose that money, and every time I did this I WOULD get the thing done.
Peer pressure. I think peer pressure is an incredibly powerful thing that we should use to our advantage whenever we can. I will use peer pressure to motivate myself sometimes by tweeting a specific goal of mine, or by telling it to my friends. For example, a while back I tweeted that I wanted to post at least three videos and five blog posts a week. If I don’t, everyone can see that I failed this fairly simple goal, and nobody wants to be considered a failure, right?!

As I said in the beginning, pain isn’t the only motivator. Pleasure is also a motivator, by rewarding yourself for example. But I have found that rewarding myself doesn’t work unless I really want the reward. Usually you’re already quite comfortable and you have no problem to really go without the reward.

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Saving Money In Your Early 20s: 5 Tips To Get You Started

Saving money should absolutely be a priority in your 20s, but for many people it’s not. Around 45% of millennials aged 18 to 24 have as little as $0 in their savings account, or they don’t even have a savings account.

Saving money when you’re young is important, because one day you’ll want to buy that house, fancy car or even retire early. These strategies will help you get started with saving. Believe me, starting out is the hardest part, once you get going and you see that number grow every month, it becomes a bit addicting!

Send some of your paycheck directly to your savings account

If you have a fulltime job, it’s important to know how much money is going in and going out every month. Ideally, you will have some money left. Whatever is left can be put in two categories: ‘fun’ money and savings. Figure out how much you want to put into your savings every month, and set up a direct deposit, so it goes directly in your savings account.

Wait before making big purchases

Do you really need those $200 shoes? that $500 handbag? I know that voice in your head tells you to treat yoself, but it might be better to wait a little – even if it’s just 24 hours. I started doing this a while ago, and it has helped me a lot – I usually don’t even want the item anymore after a few hours.

Don’t cheap out on insurance

Wherever you are in the world, I believe you shouldn’t cheap out on insurance. It might suck to pay the monthly bills, but it sucks a lot more to pay for something out of the pocket when you need it. You never know when you will need that trip to the emergency room or you accidentally set your apartment on fire. Read More »

5 Productivity Hacks That Actually Work

I’m the kind of person that goes on websites like Lifehacker and constantly tries out those so-called life-hacks. I’m absolutely obsessed with living a life that’s not only productive, but also as easy as possible (who isn’t, ha). But we all know some of those articles are filled with fluff and tips we already know. In this video, I’m discussing 5 tips or ‘hacks’ that have actually worked for me and I still use on a regular basis.

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A short rundown:

The Pomodoro technique: This is a technique that helps me to take breaks and stay productive throughout the entire day. It’s really simple: you work in 20-minute time spans, and after working focused for 20 minutes you’re allowed to take a five minute break. Every four sessions, you take a twenty minute break. This helps me to stay focused all day and not feel lethargic by the time 2 o’clock hits.

Google Inbox: In my opinion, Google Inbox is much better than the regular Gmail. It’s focused on keeping your inbox completely empty, something that the organiser in me absolutely loves! Google Inbox also allows me to sort my emails in folders and bundles, which keeps everything looking neat. Read More »

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100 Ways To Practice Self-Care

Self-care seems to be a hot topic in bloggerland, and I couldn’t be happier about it. In the past year, I’ve gotten more into self-care myself and it has made both my physical and mental health a lot better.

I think we all would like to take better care of ourselves, but  we often don’t really know where to start. Today I want to share 100 self-care activities with you. Even if you work on one or two activities at a time, you will be able to make a big change.


Remember, in the end it’s all about making a sustainable change for you, to become happier and healthier in the long run.

100 self-care activities

  1. Sleep in
  2. Take a walk in a neighbourhood you don’t visit often
  3. Eat a homecooked meal you love
  4. Go for a bike ride
  5. Take a long, hot shower
  6. Do a face mask
  7. Meditate
  8. Call your friend
  9. Pick up a that new hobby you’ve wanted to try for a while now
  10. Stretch
  11. Watch a motivating YouTube video
  12. Watch a horror movie while eating ice cream
  13. Take photos of the things that you love
  14. Declutter your space
  15. Sit and listen to the sounds of nature
  16. Stay off of social media while eating breakfast, lunch and dinner
  17. Read a book instead of scrolling through your phone before sleeping at night
  18. Do some yoga
  19. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful
  20. Laugh
  21. Pet an animal
  22. Go to a cafe by yourself
  23. Re-watch an episode of your favorite TV-show
  24. Pamper yourself: get a manicure or haircut
  25. Light a candle
  26. Go for a swim
  27. Read inspirational quotes on Pinterest
  28. Drink a bottle of water
  29. Dance
  30. Create a vision board
  31. Watch your favorite movie
  32. Listen to an album from start to finish
  33. Have a cup of tea
  34. Have lunch with a friend
  35. Smile at a stranger
  36. Volunteer
  37. Go outside and watch the sunset
  38. Write a list of things you’re thankful for
  39. Try a new recipe
  40. Slow down and be in the present
  41. Buy yourself some flowers
  42. Paint your nails
  43. Go for a run
  44. Write yourself a love letter
  45. Fill in your calendar
  46. Lotion your entire body
  47. Take a power nap
  48. Take a day off of work
  49. Write down your goals for the upcoming week
  50. Listen to a podcast
  51. Read old posts of your favorite blog
  52. Take deep breaths
  53. Look through your photos and be proud of what you have accomplished in life
  54. Practice mindful eating
  55. Paint
  56. Take a coffee break
  57. Try a green smoothie
  58. By yourself something that’s been on your mind for a while
  59. Wear your favorite outfit
  60. Get on top of your finances
  61. Go to bed early
  62. Eat a big breakfast
  63. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones
  64. Go to a museum
  65. Try a new food
  66. Get up at sunrise
  67. Take a yoga class
  68. Treat yourself to some luxury dark chocolate
  69.  Write in your journal
  70. Take a digital detox
  71. Drink lots of green tea
  72. Tidy your room or house
  73. Get out your Christmas lights, even if it’s July
  74. Wear fluffy socks
  75. Pluck your eyebrows
  76. Organise a party
  77. Learn to say no
  78. Be in the present
  79. Sing
  80. Celebrate your small achievements
  81. Make yourself a a nice, big salad
  82. Take a bath
  83. Buy new bedsheets or pillows
  84. Change the lockscreen of your phone to something that makes you happy
  85. Tell someone you love them
  86. Snuggle with your pet
  87. Visit the zoo
  88. Watch a stand-up comedy show
  89. Grow your own herbs
  90. Throw yourself a party
  91. Plan your dream vacation
  92. Learn something new
  93. Turn your phone off
  94. Bake cookies
  95. Buy coffee for a stranger
  96. Look yourself in the mirror and say you’re beautiful
  97. Visit a new city by yourself
  98. Give someone online a compliment
  99. Change the furniture in your house
  100. Declutter your workspace

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Happy Friday, friends! Today I’m introducing a new weekly segment on my blog: FRIDAY FAVORITES! I spend a lot of time consuming all types of content, and I want to share some of those hidden gems with you on a weekly basis!

Favorite Song

Ed Sheeran dominated my Spotify playlists this week. Eraser is by far my favorite song from his new album, and I can’t stop listening to it. –  ”I find comfort in my pain.”

Favorite Read

Lulu Wang – The Lily Theatre

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The Lily Theatre by Lulu Wang shows you a part of China you probably didn’t know about. In the book, Wang describes what it’s like to grow up in the country during a cultural revolution through the eyes of a young girl. This book was originally published in Dutch, which is my mother language (Dutch version of the book is pictured here). I normally like to read books in their original language (I can read Dutch, English and French and German on a good day) and I haven’t read many Dutch novels in my life. This one has been on my bookshelf for ages, and I’m loving it so far!

I’m slowly decluttering my bookshelves, but I want to read the books I haven’t read yet before I can declutter them.

Favorite Food


The classic French croissant is one of my favorite types of bread ever. Obviously, they’re the best if you get them from France, but I think my local supermarket does a pretty stellar job at making their own. I love rediscovering old favorites!

Favorite Find

I have a fascination for unresolved mysteries and disappearances. Some people vanish without leaving a trace, and some people are found without any type of identification. Cayleigh Elise is a YouTuber who does an amazing job at documenting these cases. She handles the cases with respect and does the proper research. I’m not a fan of people who sensationalize stories like these, which is another reason I love her.

Favorite Quote

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This one speaks for itself! 😉

Did you discover any hidden gems this week?

When Does Minimalism Become Unhealthy?

I watched a video from Sarah Nourse a few weeks ago called ”Why I Stopped Making Minimalism Videos” and haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. I just really felt I recognized where she was coming from, and the entire video I couldn’t stop nodding my head.

Minimalism is supposed to be fun and enrich your life. It shouldn’t be a competition where you need to own less than x to belong to the club. Everybody is different, and therefore the perception of minimalism is going to be different.

I want the minimalism community to be inclusive and welcoming of new members – we all love being part of this community & this tool/lifestyle, and we should be happy to introduce other people to it! I don’t want to quit being a minimalist or not feel welcome in this community because I’m not minimal enough, nor do I want anyone else to feel this way!

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Today I Celebrate The Women Who Inspire Me

On March 8th, 1908, a total of 15,000 women marched through the streets of New York standing up for their rights. We’ve come a long way since then, but there’s also still a long way to go.

International womens day

On March 8th, we celebrate women. Women that inspire us to be better and dream big. The women who remind us of the fact that we can do anything as long as we set our minds to it. The women who raised us to be strong and independent. To learn how to take care of ourselves and not take shit of anyone.

On March 8th, I celebrate the women who taught me that I was enough. I celebrate the women who break glass ceilings and paved the way so I can follow my dreams.  I celebrate the women who want me to succeed and support me no matter what. I celebrate my mom, my sisters and the women who inspired me in my childhood.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you for doing what you do. You inspire me to inspire the next generation.

Other women are not my competition. I stand with them, not against them.